When someone shows u who they are, believe them. Often times, we meet ppl and we think they are so wonderful and then down the line..it almost seems like they’ve changed into a completely different person. But in actuality, they still are the same person they were when u met them. You were just too blond to see it. Please, when people show you who they are, don’t hesitate to believe them. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can change them either, bc in essence…you cant. You will never be able to. As imperfect humans, we only have the power to inspire others but the only ppl we can change are ourselves. I spent most of my life in relationships trying to change ppl and all it has done is change me in the end. I thought somehow in some way by me doin certain things, sacrificing myself in various ways that that would motivate the person or trigger some sort of lightbulb in their heads to make them change their ways or behavior. I thought my example or actions would be strong enough to move them. But it is an ancient old fact that you cannot change ppl unless they want to be changed. No matter what you do.